Advance Funeral Wishes

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Getting your advance funeral wishes done can save a lot of heart ache and can even prevent family arguments at a time of grief, if those left behind know what you would have wanted. 

Your documented Advance funeral wishes will reassure your family that you have thought about things carefully and give them confidence that they are acting in accordance with your wishes when making these important decisions. It provides ‘peace of mind’ knowing that your ‘affairs are in order’.Your family, and especially if you have children, will appreciate your concern for their well-being.

It is a caring way of providing your loved ones with all the relevant information in one place. The knowledge that you are receiving the care before, during and after the funeral that you wanted will be a great comfort to them during a naturally difficult time.

If you have family members and friends who have different ideas about what you would have wanted, who are sure they know what’s best, who think you did express a preference, it’s going to be challenging  making arrangements for your funeral, to agree and all be at peace with the outcome.

Families or individuals who have not done their funeral wishes may be easily steered into unimaginative, formulaic funerals that are straightforward for the funeral directors to organise. They may be told that they can have whatever they like, but are not told what that may include beyond their own limited options.

It is strange that for weddings we make so much effort to personalise them so that they communicate something unique and personal about the couples. Yet with funerals, people may spend little time considering what we want to ‘say’ and honour about a person’ life and the many ways that could be done.

For example, you may be told that there is only one choice of vehicle to take the body to the Church or Crematorium and that there aren’t any other options which there certainly are! You may not realise how much choice there is and how relatively easy it is to personalise a funeral. It can be helpful and illuminating to have more than just the Funeral Director’s input to help you make decisions.


I thoroughly enjoyed our session, thanks for being so easy with everything and so attentive and supportive. You managed to allay my fears and put me completely at ease with talking about all the arrangements. 










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